My oldest actually invented this strategy when our second son was about 2 years old. We wen from "mom he's bothering me," to "mom make him leave I want to be alone!!"
Sometimes Mom wants Alone Time Too...
I respected his wishes and the youngest would have to leave. Not always, but if a storm was brewing I would allow "alone time." And if the little one would scream I'd explain that his older brother wants his special "alone time" and YOU get alone time too. I'd try to have my happy voice and also say its his mommy time. So this plan worked well.
It's three years later and we've evolved to "alone time." Often after school the oldest will ask for it. And on the weekends, ironically it's the younger son who wants it. He aches for his brother all week, and then it's an overdose on the weekend.
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Yes, even mom asks for her alone time, in the bathroom, when I'm reading and when I think the kids need to be separated!!
It's a strategy that brought peace to our home.
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