As I once posted in a poem, I'm not one of the stay at home mom's who likes to gossip. I don't share my private family details just to fill the time and talk about something, anything, while waiting to pick up my kids at school. I "don't cackle with the hens."
How can I keep to myself and NOT seem like a prude? Or worse, a snob! I am not, really. I just don't idle chit-chat. I like to talk about travel, politics, humor, books, kids activities, abilities, current events, cooking and meal planning... I like talking about subjects that take more than 5 minutes. And no - I do not like to gossip. Period.
Well, being so reclusive in my younger years as a new mom had an unexpected side effect.
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Of course I talk to people, I say hello, talk about perhaps a recent activity, or place we visited or ran into someone at. But I don't stand around talking about the teachers, the kids, or the issues. That's the kind of "gossip" I don't partake in, unless its with my grandmother or my mom - just a little.
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Of course I talk to people, I say hello, talk about perhaps a recent activity, or place we visited or ran into someone at. But I don't stand around talking about the teachers, the kids, or the issues. That's the kind of "gossip" I don't partake in, unless its with my grandmother or my mom - just a little.
I always say hello to my neighbors and smile, but I don't stop to chat, instead I keep walking. Some conversation have turned and when they do it's about so and so and when they did such and such.... I don't want to hear the gossip of this teacher or that. And frankly it isn't any of our (or my) business!
And so with this non-gossipy, don't wanna chit-chat about nothing approach to life causes an unusual side effect.
The stay at home mom syndrome many of us feel. This Isolation from other adults, from the mental stimulation we get when we "work" with others or "on the job." This mental or Intellectual Isolation causes a sadness sometimes, a lack of motivation, and even irritation.
Intellectual Isolation and Stay at Home Mom Boredom Syndrome
The stay at home mom syndrome many of us feel. This Isolation from other adults, from the mental stimulation we get when we "work" with others or "on the job." This mental or Intellectual Isolation causes a sadness sometimes, a lack of motivation, and even irritation.
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| My kids in the distance. Picnic Lunch. A large open space feeling of Isolation. |
But this can be overcome.
I know my staying home with the kids is drawing to a close. When my baby girl starts school I am going back to work, and I am ready for that. I enjoy working, I enjoy being engaged and making a difference. I also like spending time with adults and having a higher level thinking process and conversation. As a result of knowing things will change, I treasure this time, yes even when I feel blah, because I know it isn't forever!!! I will be on a new path within two years or so.
Okay, I'm also an optimist. So when I do have a project, or a craft, task or mission I enjoy the work. I don't complain about the task with my kid/s. When I made the school musical costumes a mom from the previous year STILL complained to me about how hard it was, so time consuming, "I know what your going thru she said." No, no you don't! I FELT INSPIRED, Motivated, thrilled to be "working" in the theatre (my passion). The kids we're so responsive to my help. They would get one piece of their costume and were transformed in their performance on stage. Knowing that the kids totally appreciated my work, and watching the leads "become their character" as they wore those costumes I Made - was a powerful feeling! I was proud, pleased with my work (yet, of course still critical on how I could've done this or that detail even better if I had more time). No worries because I will have another chance with the next show.
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When I lack adult conversation and spend my whole day with kids, my brain seems to function at a lower level. I find myself loosing words and not able to find that one specific descriptive word and find myself explaining things instead. When writing this blog, I stepped away to make coffee when trying to remember the word "analysis." [I do blog to keep my brain engaged in higher level order thinking an to help me process my day/s so it's not all one big blur.]
Surprisingly, on some days the craftiness seems to bubble over where I am finding inspiration often for crafts. Perhaps this is how my brain stays engaged? By finding ways to push itself, resulting in creativity?
I watch documentaries and have stuck with my commitment to read my National Geographic magazine every month. I try to read the books on my reading list... But that isn't as easy. I cant get my brain to get into the book. For some reason I can't focus in as well as I used too.
During the day, while I am cooking lunch or dinner, I find myself binge watching shows on Netflix. Afterwards I will read a few bloggers analysis online about the episode and then I think thru my perspective. I think this "mental exercise" also keeps my brain stimulated.
What crap nonsense is that? Binge watching and later "thinking about" the characters or plot is improving or challenging my brain?? I don't know this for a fact, but I do find myself being more creative with little problems throughout the day after this "think about it" exercise. I have found myself staying calmer with the kids, addressing their needs and answering them with appropriate problem solving techniques. Forget about it when it comes to my crafts, I have become super crafty with quick inspirations and ideas flooding my brain!
I didn't blog about making our school musicals costumes, but in 12 days I was amazed at the quality of costumes I made --- with no former experience! Unless you count my kids halloween costumes thru the years! 100 kids dressed, and fit to their characters, and more then just colorful t-shirts. Yaay! I can only assume that trying to remain intellectually stimulated helped the fire of creativity!
Originally Posted in 2012.
Originally Posted in 2012.
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