Friday, September 21, 2012

Easy Kids "Project Time" from Magazine Clippings

This is absolutely one of our favorite go to projects. I've been doing this since my oldest son was 2 or so. It's evolved into a full on fun fest at our house whenever we feel artsie.

As a new mom I used to get all these baby magazines and direct mail. So I started keeping them and occasionally clipping out the pictures. Leftover ribbon and string from various packaging also made the must keep list. I had a plastic shoes size storage container available where we keep our cut outs.

In the same bin goes:

- a pair of kids scissors
- a glue stick
- an Elmer's white glue bottle
- a pen and marker
- stickers (especially "leftovers")
- clippings from magazines
- ribbon and string remnants from food and gift packaging, etc.

To start:

We get a piece of scrap paper and my youngest son by the 3rd time doing this activity between age 2 or 3 liked to completely cover the page with glue. The older son was more selective glueing each picture. Mom helps unscrew the glue bottle. He still puts the glue stick glue on the wrong side of the clippings, on the side he wants to show. Ha! He gets frustrated when it doesn't stick sometimes. With the youngest son we stick with Elmer's.

Open the box and Rock n Roll time.. Sometimes I encourage a theme, all babies, finding a color, animals, dogs, or shapes... You get the idea. I let them pick the pictures and glue them on, cut them up, upside down, covering other pictures already glued, explore... explore!! We love project time.

For keepsake I write the artists name and date. When it's time to filter thru the art wall I put the best pieces, mine and my kids favorites, in their smash book.

The googlie eyes are the newest sensation with my 3 year old. My favorite too - so funny!!

Have fun with your artist in the making!

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Our Family Routine for the School Year, Age 7, 3, and 6 months

Every mom says: I can't believe my baby is already in (my case) second grade! He's seven, where did the time go? Not long ago it was me and him at home, still napping three times a day. We were a family of three, now we are five...
It's a ROUTINE,...not a schedule that keeps us sane!

I still believe strongly in keeping a "routine" to help keep our sanity at home... Otherwise I find that nothing gets done - nada! You will notice that there are some tasks here that my kids do alone - because over the summer and thru the years I taught them to take care of on their own:

--get dressed, underwear, shirts, pants. The clothes for the day is laid out the night before (together with mom for my youngest son, but the older one can do it on his own now) in their rooms so we know what to wear.

--use the bathroom, brush and rinse their teeth, Comb their hair with a wet comb (to take down those little sticking up-out hairs).

-- put on socks and shoes, get on their sweater if needed.

-- in the car they can open their door and put on their seatbelts/ car straps and mom asks: "seatbelt check?" and they reply "check" -- I of course lock in the baby and check the 3 year old belts before we leave. My 7 year old can clearly tell me if he needs a minute more.

I am trying to keep us on a nice schedule with back to school. We started this one week prior to school starting so we could adjust our "summer" internal body clock.

A little reflection from my "Toddler Schedule Post" - You learn as you go

My older son is now 7, and I have come to realize some mistakes I've made in raising him.

When I wrote the blog below on a schedule for toddlers, I was very proud of the fact that I limited his TV tube time. He actually didn't watch any TV or kids videos until he was almost 3. This was before iPhone an IPad too. And now I realize that was a big mistake.

Our youngest son did get some TV before age 2, mostly watching along side his brothers TV/tube time. So the youngest had early exposure to television.

Nowadays when my kids do get to watch TV for Friday movie night or cartoons on Saturday morning, the older one is completely plugged in (or zoned out). While the 3 year old can tune in and out to come get a drink from the kitchen and even gets bored with the shows.

If I had to do it all again, I'd follow our new routine. After we drop off the older one at school, my younger kids get 1 (one) hour of TV in the morning (which is public television cartoons like sesame street) without those commercials that are so awesome for kids who react with "I want that!" This way the kids get to relax and enjoy some TV time before we move on with our daily activities. There is still almost no TV during the school week for the older one, except one 1/2 hour program (our play on the iPad) after homework and responsibilities are complete.

Kids new that time to unwind, or wake up. And just like adults need to zone out sometimes, so do kids.


We get up at 7:00 am. (we may need to move this up 15 minutes)

The baby gets to sleep in. The boys get dressed, mom too. The three year old sometimes stays in his PJs depending on if we are going grocery shopping (Tuesdays) right after drop off. Use the bathroom, brush teeth, check short hair is not sticking out, up, sideways and head downstairs.

Breakfast at 7:15

We eat breakfast. Usually we start with a cup (ceramic! see why here) with 50/50 juice & water or milk. We eat either: toast with jam and sliced fruit. Or cereal and kefir yogurt to drink. Sometimes eggs with some veggie in them and topped with cheese. You get the idea, its quick but freshly made. Meanwhile I make and pack the lunch, sometimes a quesadilla taken in slices in the thermos so the stay warm. The stainless steel interior thermos is warmed by putting boiling water inside or running hot tap water in it, then wiped off.

I have a stack of homemade lunch notes that I pick from for the lunch bag. Im gonna send these until my kid is sick of me! Lunch note goes in.

By 7:30-ish am we get ready to leave for school.

Boys get there shoes on and my second grader grabs his lunch bag & backpack (from the hook) and double checks he has his forms/ homework/ etc for the day.

Mom heads back upstairs to wake The baby. I get her in a new diaper, leave on the PJs and we are ready to leave.

Out the door by 7:40 am.

Drive My older son to school and come back.

8:30 am

Get the rest of breakfast or juice for my little boy and nurse/feed the baby and get my coffee and juice (fresh juiced veggies and fruits). Watch a little cartoons with the 3 year old and baby girl nurses to a nap.

10:00 am

Baby girl nurses to nap. Read a book or do an activity with 3 year old.

Baby wakes up at 11:00 or so.

Go for a Walk, or hit the park with babies bottle and lunch. Baby girl is getting some solids with us.

12: noon

Put both kids down for a nap in mommies bed. I nurse the baby and read books to the other. I have a long thin pillow that goes next to the boy so he doesn't roll over on baby. If I'm exhausted I'll nap with them.

1:30-2:00 pm or so.

Wake up time. Sometimes they'll wake up on their own or I wake them up bu uncovering them. The hangs in temperature is a more natural way to wake up & I feel I have less cranky kids that way. Everyone has a quick snack and we head out to Pik up my older son from school.

2:30 pm Pick up from school.

We are home by 3:15-3:30 so I prepare the Snack for them, change to play clothes, play a little and then homework time.

Meanwhile moms in the kitchen making dinner preparations. My younger son has his preschool activity books to do his "homework" too. Ill feed the baby at the table with the boys. Can you say multitasking. When baby gets a little older i know ill do lunch/dinner preparations during the noon nap time.

5:00 pm

Hit the yard, park or any outside time!! When baby girl was really young id have to Usually sit and Nurse her or have to hold her the rest of the night. Luckily its a good time for the boys to run and play. I still nurse her or give her some solids while the boys play.

Dinner time 6:00-6:30.

We might squeeze in a cartoon before dinner, wash hands and eat at the table.

7:30 pm

if it's bath night/or wash face hands teeth and off to bed. The boys often join us in bed for some books and we let them fall asleep in our bed. Baby also nurses to sleep. Luckily while the playlist runs mommy - who's attached to baby - gets to be on pinterest, facebooks, etc... A little my tube time.

Ill move the boys back to their beds and head back downstairs.

Moms bedtime & the next feeding:
By 10:00 pm

Baby will sometimes take 2 ounces in a bottle other times she'll just nurse.

Baby still wake up and nurse one or two times then she will wake up at 4:am and take another two ounces in the bottle. Almost sleeping thru to the morning.

And then we start the day all over again.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Breastfeeding, A Collection of Tips from Several Years (okay, A Decade) of Nursing

"Breastfeeding is not a destination...it is the Journey, it is the Process" - Me

When you hear that to successfully breastfeeding you need to "get a good latch," what does that look like? Or have you heard of using "breast compression" to help encourage milk flow - how do you do it and how to know the breast is compressed in the right shape?  While the information in this blog cannot replace a good lactation consultant or the advice of someone who's successfully breastfed, this blog is a collection of tips, video links, perspectives, and clarity on advice NOT commonly found everywhere else. You won't find this compilation of tips anywhere else. They are Breastfeeding Tips from several years of nursing three kids. Let's jump into these easy to remember tips and reminders on what breastfeeding looks, sounds, and feels like.

Breastfeeding, A Collection of Tips from Several Years (okay, A Decade) of Nursing


Overtime, I was a nursing mom who struggled with all three kids, for one reason or another. But I breastfed all my kids as long as possible. The good news is once you get the swing of things, and that takes time, breastfeeding can be a truly wonderful experience between mom and baby.  And then some days you just feel overwhelmed and you don't want to nurse. All of these feelings are normal.

Now that your baby is born, you will see that they know how to suck at the breast and they will eventually want to constantly suck, but baby doesn't always know how to latch on properly. And mom might not recognize a proper latch, look, and feel either. Mom and baby will learn to breastfeed over the first several weeks (up to 8 weeks or more).

What a lot of women don't say - for whatever reason - is that Breastfeeding is hard in the very beginning, when we (mom and baby) are learning to breastfeed. Then add in the sleep deprevation, exhaustion, and if you have other kids - phew!! I think knowing that breastfeeding requires some effort for a few women, to a lot of effort for others, makes expectations for new moms more realistic and manageable. If you are persistent and continue to nurse, you can experience success.

Starter Websites:

During every problem I encountered while nursing over 7 years and 3 kids, I read out of print books, researched websites and anything I could get my hands on. There are many great reputable "starter websites" that can teach you how to breastfeed and resolve common issues.

-- I strongly recommend Dr. Jack Newman who's the only doctor who has committed his entire practice to study breastfeeding!!

-- Kellymom is a lactation consultants website with great details.

-- And most recently the Stanford University website with new information from recent breastfeeding studies, including how hand expressing milk in the first few days after birth, helps increase milk production.

Here is some of the BEST reassuring advice I have ever read about nursing:

If you breastfeed your baby even for a few weeks, you have a nursing relationship.
If you nurse your baby at night, you have a nursing relationship.
If you have enough milk to offer your baby "snacks," you have a nursing relationship.
If you breastfeed your baby in any way, you have a nursing relationship.

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How Breastfeeding Starts:

How do I start breastfeeding?

-- Put the baby near your breast, some babies latch on to your breast on their own! Some babies can "smell" the breast milk and "sniff around" looking for the breast.

--latch baby on the breast right after birth if possible. Insist on this at delivery! Make your desire to breastfeed known - tell every doctor and every nurse you see. At shift change sometimes the medical caregivers might not exchange notes on what your wishes are. So tell all medical people who walk in your hospital room that you are breastfeeding. No formula in these first few weeks.

-- In the first few days you produce only drops of colestrum. Then drops of milk. These drops is all the baby needs, not more.

--Babies tummy is the size of a marble at birth... So drops of milk are the perfect amount of milk!!! (you tube video).

-- and since babies stomach is so small they will nurse frequently, some times every 20 minutes - as baby grows over the first few days there will be more time in between feedings (30 minutes, 40 minutes...etc. and longer space between as baby grows up into 3, 4, months old).

---Babies love to suck, let them suck all they want on the breast. Dont unattach baby. Let them drink until they are full.

-- by day 3 the baby may be eating every 15 minutes to nearly every hour. There's no schedule, just determined if baby is hungry.

--many women say at this point (the first few days) they don't make enough milk. It's true. Because baby doesn't need that much right now. And the more often baby sucks your breast/drinks your milk, the more milk our body makes.

--At birth babies drink drops of colestrum, not ounces.

--Not until Slowly, by 3 weeks, baby will take 1-2 ounces total per feeding. There stomachs are tiny and don't stretch.

--sometimes shortly after nursing the baby will want to have the breast again. This is normal, baby might want to suckle, have a snack, or comfort nurse.

- baby stomach size is only a small marble at birth, so drops of cestrum is more then enuogh mik. By 5 days it's a large marble. Not even a few ml, or a 1/4 oz per feeding - that's only drops of your milk that will fit. By 10 days baby stomach is the size of a golfball - roughly 10ml or a 1/2 oz.

-- By 6 weeks babies tummy is the size of a golf ball - so 1-2 ounces of milk is also sufficient, baby may just eat more often then other babies.
You tube video on baby tummy size.

-- Babies should suck swallow the first 5-7 mins of feeding. This suck-swallow is how you know baby IS eating and not just keeping the breast in their mouth. Unless the baby is feeding for a snack, or comfort nursing. (link Dr jack video on suck swallow)

-- a nice latch technique is to roll the breast down along babies lower lip with bottom of your aereola to get a wider mouth and a better latch. (you tube video n minute)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMPpQULNG0w&feature=youtube_gdata_player

- unlatch - my baby didn't start falling off after breastfeeding or "unlatch" on her own until almost 6 weeks. So expect that baby will fall asleep at the breast and stay asleep unless you wake them. There's another school of thought. It to wake baby. But in my case I didn't wake baby and she wasn't actively eating enough, milk wasn't removed, more milk wasn't made, etc., so I needed to wake baby by unlatching, burping her and then offering the second breast.

- when you wait for the open mouth, my lactation consultant taught me that you need to firmly push baby onto the breast. It'll feel strange to first time moms/nursing because we are used to being overly gentle with baby. But when you hold babies neck and push her on the aereola as seen in many latching videos... It's a firm push, not slow because if your too slow you will loose the "open mouth" on baby!

-- Newborn Babies want the breast often - every 1 hour or less and will stay on for 20 mins to an hour, first eating, then sleeping and sometimes just comfort sucking.

--Babies know to sux but they don't know to take enough aereola in. Practice practice practice. Relatch and relatch as needed. Thats why it's said to not give up breastfeeding because it takes time for mom and baby to learn!! And time can mean several weeks!

--Thats why it's said to not give up breastfeeding because it takes time for mom and baby to learn!! And time can mean several weeks!

-- if you feel you need to supplement with formula, then consider a supplemental nursing system. SNS is a great way to supplement AND experience breastfeeding. See below.

-- ask someone to show you how to co-sleep with the baby. And learn to nurse laying down in the "sideline" position. These two tactics saved my nursing relationships with my babies.

-- keeping up even a limited milk supply so you can nurse at nighttime is wonderful so you can save yourself from making a bottle or supplementing at night.

-- gassy baby. After feeding on one side, burp and put back on same breast. Baby may not be getting enough hind milk which is filling and fatty and will aid in gas Relief.

-- if baby starts to spit up it might not be acid reflux. Consider that baby is possibly over eating? Babies will spit out the breast and bottle with their tongue. Do not make the baby finish a bottle. Why do they "have to" drink 2 ounces or 4 ounces? Is it because of your schedule? Baby's won't overeat on their own. So if your being told to consider acid reflux medication for your baby, pay closer attention to how s/he is eating.

-- what to expect in the early weeks of breastfeeding http://life.familyeducation.com/breastfeeding/36046.html?page=1


How does Breastfeeding Feel?
Does breastfeeding hurt?

-- at first it may hurt a little, or a lot. Depending on your latch, and pain tolerance/ irritation tolerance. But if you can last a day or two, it does get easier.

-- video link is below; with suck on finger to first knuckle, then second to learn difference in nipple feel. Put your finger in your mouth so your teeth touch to the first knuckle. Suck like That tickle of tongue on tip of your finger tells you baby is "tuckling the tip of the nipple". That means the latch is too shallow. Now put your finger in gour mouth to your 2nd knuckle. When you suck like threw a straw you feel the tongue rub the bottom of the finger- that's correct sensation.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUHLDu4HrM&feature=youtube_gdata_player

-- listen for swallowing, similar sound to when y swallow after sipping thru a straw.

-- video link
-- -Sucking feels like a tugging. But the tug starts at the niplple and feels can feel like a pull or small tug throughout the interior of the breast all the way thru to the chest wall. General description, varies baby to baby.

--you should feel something, basically that baby isn't just holding the nipple in their mouth.

-- breast compression feels like a gentle push on the breast tissue and helps the flow of milk, but squeezing and holdin the squeeze too long stop the flow of milk - see Dr Jack Newman video on proper compressions.

--As baby get older - 5+weeks you may feel / see the top of the aereola move and get tugged as baby sucks. This is normal, and shows she's sucking strongly. But it shouldn't hurt your nipple or breast - tugging is okay but no pain.

--If baby is not sucking well or has a high pallette or a low suck, read this link with ways to improve baby's suck.
http://www.llli.org/nb/nbsepoct04p169.html

-- babies as they get to be 2 weeks old or so will "hug" the breast, wrapping their arms around it. Then as try gain more control of their arms, baby will "kneed" the breast to encourage milk flow. These pushes from baby are similar to breast compressions mentioned by Dr. Jack Newman. Baby might also Di these things to encourage the Milk flow at the breast: push it, press on it, or squeeze it. Sometimes a squeeze feels
Like pinching. You can tell baby gently NO and move their hand, or start breast compressions. Don't be rough and swat or push babies hand away, this is natures way of encouraging milk production.


How does Breastfeeding Look?
How do I know if baby is latched right?
How does a good breastfeeding latch look? :

-- guide to basic setup where baby is tummy to tummy with mom for cradle position. Link

-- Nipple to nose means the flat/top part of the nipple is pointing to babys nostrils and NOT near the top/tip of babies nose.

--when latching your actually focused on getting the aereola in babies mouth and the nipple "tags along" and flips in at the last Moment. Baby is NOT nipple feeding, their aereola (the brown part all around the nipple) sucking. This "flip in" is a good strategy to get plenty of aereola in the mouth.

-- babies neck will be extended, long, and seem like baby is looking up. Their chin shouldn't be touching their chest wall.

--Lips larger then "L" shape

-- Baby should look like they have "fish lips." Their lips are flipped out and you can see the pink interior.

-- Baby is actually taking in only 1/2 of the aereola, the Nipple is the top interior of their mouth and the bottom of aereola is resting on babys tongue. The top part of the (above the nipple) will not be in babys mouth- jack Newman drawing.

-- When latching your not approaching the aereola straight on. Baby is taking in 1/4 of the breast. Do not approach straight on but on an angle. From the top view of a cradle or cross cradle hold, If the nipple is at babys nose then babies mouth is at the all the way right or left of the nipple. More then 1/2 the nipple stays exposed especially in the early weeks when baby's mouth is small.

-- a nice latch strategy is to make a "nipple sandwich" and Squeeze the areola (behind the nipple), release once a good suction is started, a few seconds, this way baby gets plenty of areola in their mouth.

-- a Nipple sandwich should be a "U" shaped compression for the cradle hold: have your fingers parrallel to babies lips. If you football hold or lay down to nurse your fingers, parallel to babies lips will look like a letter "c" - link; Standford and Dr Newman.

-- bring the Nipple to the babies Nose. I know this sounds weird, but baby will "smell" the nipple and tilt their head back and latch on every time.

-- baby Has their lips "flipped out" for a good latch.

-- at the end of Nursing, some babies will have a little "lip blister" on the center of their upper lip - its not painful.

-- As baby get older - 5+weeks you may see / feel the top of the aereola move and get tugged as baby sucks. This is normal, and shows she's sucking strongly. But it shouldn't hurt your nipple or breast - tugging is okay but no pain.

- Dr. Jack Newman latch - great video (which starts with an exposed breast) showing a baby latched on properly.

-- have a special activity/books for toddler to only get to play with during nursing. It's great book reading time too.

-- no pacifiers bottles or anything other then breast for first 3 months or until supply is well established

--At 4/5 weeks I can put baby down for 15-20 mins to make lunch, potty, get my water bottle filled etc. then she will want to nurse again. We started to nurse every 1 - 1 1/2 hours at about 6-8 weeks.

-- she still doesn't unattach when done feeding - she just falls asleep. Then I unattach her after a few minutes and put her to bed for a nap.

-- how a good breastfeeding latch should feel? discovered a roll down the lower lip method to attach baby and get a full mouth of aereola. Also a video on how the nipple should feel by babys tongue.

-- sometimes I unattach and relatch her 5-7xs until we get it right. I let her suck a little and swallow 2-3 xs before I unattach and start again. Baby can get frustrated after so much unlatching and refuse to nurse - use caution.

-- unlatch - my baby didn't start falling off after breastfeeding or "unlatch" on her own until almost 6 weeks. So expect that baby will fall asleep at the breast and stay asleep unless you wake them.

-- when you wait for the open mouth, my lactation consultant taught me that you need to firmly push baby onto the breast. It'll feel strange to first time moms/nursing because we are used to being overly gentle with baby. But when you hold babies neck and push her on the aereola as seen in many latching videos... It's a firm push, not slow because if your too slow you will loose the "open mouth" on baby!

-- a deep latch instructions and pictures
http://www.pumpstation.com/pumpstation/dept.asp?dept_id=3228


How does Breastfeeding Sound?
Do babies make noise breastfeeding? :

-- you should NOT hear loud sucking sounds, or slurping noises. There may be one noise at first, but after one minute or two, baby should only sound like the sounds listed below. That would mean Baby is taking in to much air as s/he sucks. It could also mean baby is sucking their cheeks in, or sucking on his lips, and is also not a correct latch. Unlatch baby and start again. Use the roll down technique mentioned above.

-- it sounds like occasional swallows. Just like when you swallow.

-- it sounds like little releases of air from the nose.

-- it sounds like the swallowing sound you make when drinking through a straw.

Breastfeeding Facts for mom:

How much water should I drink when breastfeeding?
(common tips demystified)

--drink plenty of liquids means:
- you are not thirsty
- you drink mostly water or non- caffine drinks.
- you drink about 64 ounces a day, that's 8 oz or 1 Cup of water every hour
- you are urinating every hour during the day.

-- a good way to stay hydrated is drink drink 8 ounces of water before each nursing session. And if you are still parched, then drink another cup after nursing.


How does breast pumping look and feel?
How does it look when you pump  Breastmilk?
What's a good nursing and pumping schedule?

-- understand just for yourself, what are your reasons for pumping? Is it So someone else can give baby a bottle? Because you work? If you primarily breast feed and baby is always in your care, do you really need to pump?

-- pumping looks like nothing at first. On the first few attempts It could take several minutes (2-7 minutes) before you even get a drop of milk to come out. Many moms need to walk away from the machine, take a few minutes break and then come back and try again in the first attempts at pumping.

-- a lot of advice says look at a picture of baby, or sniff their clothes. But if you are constantly thinking about that email from work, or that website you had to read.... Do it! Once you learn how to pump you can read email instead of looking at baby's picture.

-- Realize also that you won't pump 8 ounces probably ever, or even 1 oz until many, many weeks to months down the road. Droplets are great in the first few days!! Then a half ounce (from both breasts) is excellent. Anything more is not the norm.

-- breastmilk looks like a skim milk with a slight light blue color. It turns from watery drops to a thicker Looking whole milk.

-- when pumping the milk starts as little milk drops from on top of the nipple, then either a small drops drip Down or/a spray stream forms. "spray streams" is the milk coming out of the nipple. Some women have one or two spray streams start. Some women have many spray streams from their nipple. (I rarely get past this point and I'll pump 1-1/2 oz in 5-10 minutes.)

-- when your milk comes out of the nipple there is two types of simultaneous flow: one slow constant drip, and one spray of milk with every suction action. (The spray part comes out of the nipple in one hole or thru several holes - like a garden spray hose attachment/ or a shower nozzle with a few holes). It's worth watching a hand expression video (on you tube) to see this effect in action.

-- Occasionally I will have a "milk let down" while pumping and a large amount of spray holes open - looking like a spray valve with nearly 10 sprays of milk working simultaneously. Sometimes only the "drip" happens with 1 spray hole working. And sometimes it's 4 sprays... Everything depends on when you pump, before or after a feeding, is it morning, are you tired, etc.

-- how much you pump depends on so many factors. How full of milk your breast are, is it after a feeding, is it early morning, or evening, are you relaxed enough?

-- remember we are not designed to pump. The machine doesn't suction as well as a baby. You only pump approximately 70% of what your breasts produce.

-- most women see at least a few drops. Pumping many ounces (more then 1-2 ounces or so) is the exception.

--I could only pump 1/2 oz or less (total from both breasts) for the first several pumping sessions thru 5 weeks. More pumping experience = equals more milk per session. This happens slowly over several ( 3-5) days... Not hours!

-- when pumping it is helpful to try breast compressions to help drain the milk. See Dr. Jack Newman compression video. It really helps to gently push out the milk working with the pumps rhythm.

-- and add power pumping or every hour pumping.

-- this is a nice pumping and breastfeeding combination schedule. It is from an adoption website, but works for moms trying to build a milk supply while pumping. http://www.fourfriends.com/abrw/Boot%20Camp/bcr.htm


How to know if breastfeeding works?
Is Breastfeeding going well?
How big is newborn poop stools?
In general:

-- baby is actively sucking at the breast.

--Baby is satisfied after eating (not screaming or irritated).

-- watch baby, are they making drinking sounds?

--Baby is relaxed and not tense or tight fisted. But feeding is an intense experience for the baby. It is
Normal for baby to look and feel excited before nursing by cooing, babbling or crying. My babies would kick their legs or even shake with excitement.

-- there is enough in the diaper to count pee and poo. After 6 weeks Some breastfed babies poop once a week, but this is only true after 6 weeks or so. Otherwise breastfed babies poop at least once daily, some poop after every feeding.

-- baby stools and baby poop is small. The first day merconium amount is small, less then palm size. As babys continue to poop everyday, poop will vary, but I usually small in the first few weeks through 6 weeks. link here to what baby poop looks like.

-- Sometimes baby poo is only the size of a dime or a quarter. This is a stool and poop that equals a dirty diaper.

-- is my breastfed baby constipated? Or is baby just not pooping enough?

-- baby is gaining weight using the WHO world health organization guidelines (3.5-7 ounces a week). Breast fed baby weight growth chart link

-- don't be afraid to weigh baby yourself and own a scale. In Europe many women own their own scales and weigh baby daily. In the united states we would cause major congestion at the doctors offices just weighing our babies! This is a good way to feel at ease and know baby is gaining weight, and not wait too long between weight checks to uncover a possible problem!

-- early good weight gain turns into slow/no weight gain at 6 weeks or so. Read Dr. Jack Newman article about how newborns stay on the breast often falling asleep there and shorty after get a 2nd let down of milk. This adds calories an intake. Another good reason NOT to unlatch baby right as they fall asleep. When they are older babies get frustrated sooner or other reasons highlighted In This article.

-- Dr Jack Newmans BLOG is a great read thru and resource also.

-- if baby is gassy s/he may not be getting enough "hind milk." hind milk is more fatty and filling. After a feeding, and it's time to feed again, put baby back on the same breast as the last feeding so they can get more of the hind milk. Then When baby finishes the first breast offer the second breast. After a several feedings this should help ease the gas.

-- baby should have 6 wet diapers a day. Wet means 1-2 ounces of pee, especially under 6 weeks. Take an empty diaper and fill it w a shot glass worth of water, that's one ounce. now hold the water filled diaper in the palm of your hand, and hold an empty diaper in your other hand. Compare the sensation (it's a subtle difference).

-- after a nursing session if baby won't stay asleep alone, without mom, this Does NOT mean baby is hungry. My daughter would take a full nursing and I would lay her down when she fell asleep and within 5 minutes she'd be awake. But if she fell asleep and i'd keep her in my arms or in a baby sling, she'd sleep for a full 20-30 minute nap.


Look at baby when they are nursing, it helps develop self esteem and awareness areyousureaboutthatblog


General breastfeeding advice and tips:

Links:
Stanford studies
Kelly mom
Dr. Jack Newman

-- if baby is spitting up, consider they are over eating or eating too fast. Slow the feeding by giving half the breast/ or bottle supplement. Stop and burp baby. Then give the rest of the feeding. If baby isn't hungry, and spitting out the bottle, then respect that.. do not force baby to eat more - their stomachs are small.

-- once your baby is regularly nursing in a rhythm (not a schedule) and baby is regularly finishing the breast, and then starting her next feeding sooner, this is how baby gets your breast to make more milk. Allow baby to eat sooner - it's not your time to eat doesn't help the nursing rhythm.

-- Do you always finish your lunch or dinner? Do you sometimes need a snack, or maybe your a Little extra thirsty today? Babies needs also vary, consider this when feeding your baby. Sometimes they are hungry sooner, or baby needs an extra drink.

-- When Breastfeeding / Nursing in public: do you like eating with your head covered? Having your dinner with a scarf over your head so you cannot see? I think covering up a nursing baby actually draws more attention to you -- people know your trying to cover something. I started nursing without a cover up and I find people pay less attention to us. If you nurse and see yourself in the mirror you will find that your baby covers a lot of the breast.

-- sometimes shortly after nursing the baby will want to have the breast again. This is normal, baby might want to suckle, have a snack, or comfort nurse

-- A friend who was still night nursing at 2 year old. I still want to nurse because this is my last baby. I'm Not having more kids and I want to last as long as possible! WHO recommends nursing until 2 years old, and it's not because of "lack of dietary" needs in poorer countries. It's because breast milk contains everything's babies need. Consider combination nursing and introducing foods.

How to produce the most breastmilk?
How to make more milk?

Induced Lactation Resource

-- I started using a SNS because baby wasn't gaining fast enough. I then kept the SNS the hospital gave me out of fear of him being hungry. Every whimper, every cry, in my mind it meant hunger. Insecurity is so dibilitating.

-- Nursing is fab. No bottle no water to shlep. Just some nappies and my body brings the milk. I love going on outing with my kids and I can nurse anywhere while they have fun and get there energy out.

-- I don't unlatch baby girl when she falls asleep. I find that after a little while, sometimes 10 mins of nibbling, sometimes 20, she will start gulping - alot - it is either a 2nd left down of milk or all those drops from nibbling build up in her mouth to several gulps worth.

-- Cluster feeding - babies sometimes build up there calories for a long night's sleep, so they "cluster feed" or take several feedings in a short period of time at night. Maybe every 20 minutes for 1-2 hours before bedtime.

-- Often I feel like a refridgerator constantly in use

-- cup feed supplement instead of a bottle, even with a newborn.

-- compress breast to get milk flow- pain free

-- link Breast Compression  Dr. Jack Newman
-- Dr Spock: excerpt diapers and breastfeeding paragraph so moms know wet / poop diapers standard for formula fed baby and breastmilk varies.

-- if you have a Gassy baby, After feeding on one side, burp and put the baby back on the same breast. Baby may not be getting enough hind milk which is filling and fatty and will aid in gas Relief.

-- Spock sleeping with baby excerpt

-- tongue tie - consult a pediatric dentist for good advise in additin to LC and pediatrician. See tongue tie questions.

-- surround urself with support - it's hard to find sometimes.

-- Get people to cook for u .


How to Breastfeed and Supplement?
How can I breastfeed and give formula to my baby?
How soon should I start supplementing?
How to supplement feeding a breast fed baby?

-- if supplementing consider buying breastmilk from a milk bank instead of formula. Or use your pumped milk.

-- Consider using a supplemental nursing system (SNS). It's a nice way to supplement while nursing!
one type of SNS sold by Medela, however I used a tube with a plunger and a baby bottle. Easy to Use! Areyousureaboutthatblog

-- when baby drinks from a bottle the milk flow is fast, and baby does not have to suck hard or work as hard to get the milk out. When using the tube feeding SNS the baby still has to suck to get the milk out. So at the same time baby practices breastfeeding.

-- you can also use a less expensive #8 French tube feeder with a small plunger. Use the tube in the corner of babies mouth as you would the SNS, and attach to the bottle as pictured. Cleaning the tube: Buy a catheter tipped syringe to push clean water through the tube. Amazon links here.

-- if baby is not gaining weight well and having less then 6 wet diapers a day, this is an indication of a problem with breastfeeding.

-- for example: My daughter was only gaining 1.5 ounces a week for 2 months. She was never satisfied after a feeding yet we nursed constantly. She had 3 wet diapers a day and very little poop, maybe one spot the size of a dime, every other day. In my case we started supplementing at 8 weeks, after truly giving breastfeeding it's due time to work.

-- I started supplementing at 2 months / 8 weeks with my 2nd son due to low weight gain. However knowing the information I have now, he didn't loose weight. I would have waited a little longer to supplement.

-- with my daughter I started supplementing at 8 weeks because she did loose weight.

-- when supplementing along with breastfeeding, first let baby breastfeed until they unlatch. If they fall asleep at the breast, burp baby, change their diaper, and then offer the same or the next breast. Then slide in the SnS into the corner of their mouth while latched to the breast. Or offer the bottle after baby breastfeeds.

-- if supplementing, start slow. Newborns tummies are so small they need only drops, not ounces!!

-- If you want breastfeeding to be successful then except that baby will eat with in 20 minutes to an hour, not longer between feedings. This allows for them to not over eat and be ready for the next breast feeding.

-- Baby's tummy is small. So "getting enough" it relative to babies age, and tummy size. Link to British you tube video stomach sizes:
Day 1-2 Baby's Tummy is the size of a marble
Day 3 about the size of a ping pong ball.
by Day 10 its the size of a large egg.

-- babies have been studied an found that they will take a full breastfeeding and Then can still take a full bottle!! Babies cannot "turn off" the sucking reflex. So add the supplement-- slowly, a few drops to a few tablespoons. Formula fed babies can go 3-4 hours between feedings. If you give formula your baby will not nurse and then you will "loose" that feeding of milk from your breasts.

-- If needed, add 1 tablespoon of supplement at a time. See if baby is content. Then build up over a day to 2 tablespoons, then the next day 3 tablespoons until you may or may not reach 1 ounce for easier weening later. You DO NOT have to feed one ounce to baby!! 1-2 tablespoons might be enough, just to take off the edge of hunger from baby..

-- formula keeps babies satisfied longer the. Breastmilk, eating every two hours is a Formula based feeding schedule. Remember to pump or hand express if you supplement with any milk.

-- weening from formula strategy and chart

Weening from supplement link: http://www.mother-2-mother.com/supplement.htm#wean

http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/decrease-formula/http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/basics/decrease-formula/

-- or 8 week self weening

-- a nice article on the impacts of breastfeeding and formula feeding. If you breastfeed, your baby will be healthier,’ to ‘If you don’t breastfeed, your baby will be more prone to…,” http://drjaygordon.com/breastfeeding/milkyway.html

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Thursday, August 9, 2012

Bag It, How to Get Rid of Plastic in your Life

Enjoying our summer vacation from school, with a lot of playing outside, and on these horribly hot days, we catch a movie on Netflix. Recently we watched "Bag It" an excellent movie about the life cycle of those uber convenient plastic bags carried by nearly every grocery store. Super Informative, non-preachy, funny approach and shocking, scarily shocking.


I had already done quite a lot to make changes so we waste less, and remove excess environmental toxins from our home. I also had a fabulous conversation with our first pediatrician about childhood diseases like Austism and ADHD and it's relation to environmental toxins. Our pediatrician enlightened me saying that it is NOT the vaccines on.. their.. own.. causing illnesses. Instead we need to look at all the toxins in our lives like, laundry detergent, boxed foods, plastic use, cleaning chemicals, even our clothes. She said if we take ALL those toxins into consideration, we can see how much toxicity is in our bodies...and then in our little tiny babies bodys that just can't filter it out fast enough.

Thats one reason why my A-Ha moment was so shocking! I had already done so much for a healthier life, I guess we had become a dreaded - content.

Later in this blog I'll recap some facts about those little plastic conveniences that have saturated our lives. But on to the I had a big A-Ha moment mid-way thru the movie... right in the part where the director was getting a blood test to monitor his chemical levels. Blood samples were taken before, and then after, eating for 2 days out of plastic containers - food storage, baby sippy cups, aluminum cans (turns out their lined with plastic), etc. No surprise, his toxicity level went up, shockingly fast too.

...And it hit me, my kids are drinking everyday from those disposable kids cups with lids, plastic cups that we reuse. Yes there BPA free, but Bag It has made it very clear that all forms of plastic are toxic, even BPA free.

I got up, left the living room and walked to the kitchen, I grabbed a garbage bag and started throwing out the kids cups. I called in my oldest son to help me, and the 3 year old tagged along. WE threw out all those plastic conveniences! From the cupboard, dishwasher, in the "deli" cups left around the house...all gone. Now the documentary makes it clear these plastics do not actually get recycled, they end up in a landfill in China (I know, what? Why China? See the movie!)...but they are not staying in my house...

But the Good News is that the environmental toxins we absorb are REVERSIBLE.

So Now What Do I Do??

No more plastic cups, geez now it'll be spills, breaks and chaos around any drinks we have at home? Well, not really. I learned when my eldest was in preschool that they can pour their own beverages into cups, limit spills, wipe up their own mess, etc., etc.

1. -- Instead of plastic sippy cups WE USE: Cups, you know those ceramic "coffee" cups. Safe, non toxic, and fairly durable since itll take a pretty big hit before they break.

2.-- Do not heat any food in plastic. Not in the microwave or oven. Here we've reverted to ol' skill methods, WE USE: the pan! Just like my 80 year old grandma still does, we re-heat leftovers on the stove. It's easier than you think, and tastier.

3. -- Do not store food in plastic containers. I am taking this plastic issue to the next level. The heating of food, in a plastic container, cause a chemical exchange of the leaking chemicals to enter the food. Less is exchanged when the food is cold, but none the less, I'm certain it's not any healthier. WE USE: glass jars left over from jam, spaghetti sauces, etc or ceramic bowls covered by a plate. Again old school style, like our moms and grandmothers did 30-50 years ago.

4. -- Eat as natural as possible and you will buy less plastic packaging. If it doesn't come from the earth, don't eat it. Foods should be as close to their natural state as possible. And let's move away from the brown plate syndrome. When you look at your plate of food it should be colorful, not just filled with brown or yellow color foods. Meanwhile helping cut down on packaging demands.

When I started staying home to raise my son, is when I started reading more and more about the toxicity in our environment. I kept a diary, for my son of what life is like, and the changes I was making to improve our quality of a healthy life. Here are some excerpts from that diary stared a few years ago:

Bag It the Movie Suggestions, Top Ten Ideas, and more on how to live a life less plastic....

Here some facts from bigger institutions studying the impact of plastics.

The Breast Cancer Fund and Silent Spring Institute conducted a study, published today in Environmental Health Perspectives. We enlisted five families for a week-long investigation. First, the families ate their normal diets. Then, we provided them with three days’ worth of freshly prepared organic meals that avoided contact with BPA-containing food packaging, such as canned food and polycarbonate plastic. Finally, the families returned to their normal diets. We measured their BPA levels at each stage.

While the families were eating the fresh-food diet, their BPA levels dropped on average by 60 percent. Those with the highest exposure levels saw even greater reductions: 75 percent.

These groundbreaking results tell us that removing BPA from food packaging will eliminate our number one source of BPA exposure.

That means you can make changes right now to reduce your family’s levels of this chemical linked to breast cancer. It's as simple as cooking at home with fresh foods and making some very basic changes in your kitchen, such as limiting canned foods, choosing glass and stainless steel food and beverage containers, and not microwaving in plastic. You might also consider eating fewer meals out—especially at places that don't use fresh ingredients.

The CDC also has some tips on lowering carcinogens in your home and life:

1. Filter your tap water. Common carcinogens in tap water include arsenic, chromium, and chemical byproducts that form when water is disinfected. A simple carbon tap-mounted filter or pitcher can help reduce the levels of some of these contaminants. If your water is polluted with arsenic or chromium, a reverse osmosis filter will help. Learn about your tap water and home water filters at EWG's National Tap Water Database.

2. Seal outdoor wooden decks and play sets. Those built before 2005 are likely coated with an arsenic pesticide that can stick to hands and clothing. Learn more from EWG.

3. Cut down on stain- and grease-proofing chemicals. "Fluorochemicals" related to Teflon and Scotchgard are used in stain repellants on carpets and couches and in greaseproof coatings for packaged and fast foods. To avoid them, avoid greasy packaged foods and say no to optional stain treatments in the home. Download EWG's Guide to PFCs.

4. Stay safe in the sun. More than one million cases of skin cancer are diagnosed in the United States each year. To protect your skin from the sun's cancer-causing ultraviolet (UV) radiation, seek shade, wear protective clothing and use a safe and effective sunscreen from EWG's sunscreen database.

5. Cut down on fatty meat and high-fat dairy products. Long-lasting cancer-causing pollutants like dioxins and PCBs accumulate in the food chain and concentrate in animal fat.

6. Eat EWG's Clean 15. Many pesticides have been linked to cancer. Eating from EWG's Clean 15 list of the least contaminated fruits and vegetables will help cut your pesticide exposures. (And for EWG's Dirty Dozen, buy organic.) Learn more at EWG's Shopper's Guide to Pesticides.

7. Cut your exposures to BPA. Bisphenol A (BPA) is a synthetic estrogen found in some hard plastic water bottles, canned infant formula, and canned foods. Some of these chemicals cause cancer in lab studies. To avoid them, eat fewer canned foods, breast feed your baby or use powdered formula, and choose water bottles free of BPA. Get EWG's tips to avoid it.

8. Avoid carcinogens in cosmetics. Use EWG's Skin Deep cosmetic database to find products free of chemicals known or suspected to cause cancer. When you're shopping, don't buy products that list ingredients with "PEG" or "-eth" in their name.

9. Read the warnings. Some products list warnings of cancer risks -- read the label before you buy. Californians will see a "Proposition 65" warning label on products that contain chemicals the state has identified as cancer-causing.

"Latch On" New York initiative - It's Not About You!

I've been reading some blogs about the Latch On initiative in blogs and twitter, all I see is women saying get out of my bra Mayor Bloomberg! I won't delve into the initiative specifics, for that you can read here. Well guess what ladies, "Latch On" is Not For or About You! Or you, yeah you, reading this right now.

Now, in 2016, this 2012 post is still relevant. In that many women still dont see other women nursing. So much in our lack of time lifestyle doesnt allow us the comfort of nursing. That sentence stands out to me still. Im so glad Latch On was an initiative I witnesses. It reminds me that my awareness level - and personal learnings from family and friends - arent always the same with other mothers.

Back to Latch On...

Middle class women, educated women, and women reading blogs are arguably aware of the choices they make when breast feeding or formula feeding their babies. Because we are reading, and engaging in conversation, we understand it's a choice, and our personal pros and cons that come with our choice.

But hundreds of thousands of women don't make a conscious choice, they just do.

Think for a moment about how much formula advertising there is in the world? Bus stops, tv commercials, bottle fed babies are arguably seen throughout urban areas, "free formula" bags at the hospital, and direct mail to new mom's... But where are the moms who are breastfeeding? Where is the breastfeeding advertising? And please don't say "it's natural" so women should know how. The CDC study shows "While 75 percent of U.S. babies start out breastfeeding, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says, only 13 percent are exclusively breastfed at the end of six months."

Most women post-baby boomers generation, born and raised in the U.S., haven't seen a women breastfeeding, let alone their mothers or family members breastfeed. So no, most women don't instantly think about breastfeeding, but they do have $688 millions of dollars of formula advertising in their ear, according to Nielsen data.

The Latch On initiative is to ADVERTISE to women that they have a choice, to breastfeed or formula feed. Women, who may be poor, uneducated, and have limited resources, will for The First Time be given information on breastfeeding, education they didn't have before. You have this information tho. You are probably a women who - if you desire - can bring your own bottle and formula to the hospital. But at least breastfeeding information will be provided - and ADVERTISED!

Wednesday, August 8, 2012

Downtown Chicago: Fun and Some Free Activities for Kids and Adultss

My kids and I go downtown all the time and never shop! Well, not never. But we often go on our own excursions that are no cost or low cost... So we don't need to shop!


Millenium Park

We take the train part of the way there. We park at an enroute train station. Arrive at Union Station and walk the 10 blocks or cab it to Millennium Park. We usually pack drinking water and bring a change of clothes so we can get wet in the famous Millenium fountain on the west side of the park. We will Walk thru the Prarie area off the north side Monroe & near the newer bridge to Art Institute (and photo opportunities when we cross it!). Of course you can see "clouds gate," locally known as "the bean." Take pictures with your hands on the beam as if holding it up, laying down on the ground with your head towards the bean for a reflection, and another nice one is of the skyline in the beans reflection. Then walk the cool silver bridge 1/2 way towards the lakefront... or walk all the way to lakefront and eat lunch on the grass and watch the boats steps away from LSD at Monroe harbor. Brown bag lunch or buy a dog there. Great pics!! Sometimes they have sponsored day activities. This is all with in a 2 block radius...


Boat Tours

Wendellas boat rides are nice, bring snacks... Park underground then e lunch on the river somewhere. Then walk up the stairs and head south on Michigan avenue across the bridge and about 3 blocks down are a few nice shops, and restaurants (few doors down from the Comfort Suites). Including checking out the artifacts at the Hard Rock cafe.


Chinatown

You can take the water taxi to Chinatown. Lunch is inexpensive! Walk the main strip (Wentworth and Cermack) and visit some of the stores. Kids love the immersion in a different culture. Theres many walking tours, including kid friendly ones, be sure to ask for a short tour...There's great parks and restaurants to enjoy Bubble tea. Take a peek at chicagolikealocal.com for great kid friendly advice: http://chicagolikealocal.com/2011/09/18/chicagos-chinatown-with-kids-in-tow-2/


Fancy Tea Party and pictures

Oh!!! No shopping? How about Tea at the Ritz Carlton or the Peninsula hotel. So fabulous, gotta do it at least once. Phone first for times and availability. Served with Sandwiches & Cookies. Then walk over to Oak Street Beach for a bit. Before the underground passage stop and take pictures in the gazebo & flower garden east of Michigan Avenue and north of Oak Street.


John Hancock and Candy

Pay a visit to the John Hancock 95th / 96th floor for Lunch or kiddie cocktails drinks. Or just take an elevator ride up for free, your not required to eat there. The ladies room has a great view. Then walk over to water tower and ride the escalators all the way up to the CandyAlity store on the 7th floor... Giant lollipops and 3 foot tubes of gum balls. And your steps from Oak Street beach - see above.


Lunch at a BeachStro

Lunch on the beach is wonderful at the Oak Street Beachstro, seasonally only.

Downtown has so much to offer, make the most of it...enjoy!

Friday, June 29, 2012

My story in Poetry: Breastfeeding is hard

So, here's what our society doesn't talk about....sometimes breastfeeding is hard.

Everywhere I read about "just always put baby on the breast," no schedule is needed. And usually baby eats every two hours or so, for roughly 20 minutes each side. 

Ha! 


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In the early 8 weeks my babies would eat CONSTANTLY. My routine was eat for 5, 10, 15 minutes, nap for 10 -30 minutes, eat, nap, eat, nap. So I affected my confidence wondering if somethings wrong. I accepted and loved staying home, I don't need to leave to house, or go to target - I'm here just to care for the baby.

As a mother of three, I wanted to nurse all my babies. With each one there was a small problem here or there.... And I wasn't able to EB (expressly breast) feed.

My poem goes into how this was a challenge, but I made it out of those dark few weeks, realizing that just have the baby at the breast is a wonderful feeling in itself. Yes, there are concerns. But let's talk basics. You Are Feeding Your Baby, Offering a Snack, It's Lovely.

My story in Poetry: Breastfeeding is hard


But for now, here's my poetic take on why:

Breastfeeding is hard

Just put the baby on the breast
And make sure you get plenty of rest
Eat an extra 500 calories a day
And drink lotsa water as much as you may.

Rest ? What's that
I'm exhausted all. the. time.
Eating requires cooking
An for that I'd have to hear you whine

Feed the baby on demand,
A schedule is not at hand.
She'll eat at least 20 minutes on each side,
Just go with the feeding tide.

What's this 20 minute thing?
Baby eats only when she's not sleeping,
at the breast, in my arms, but not at night,
I've been up so long I greet the day light.

Watch the baby to show their satisfied,
6-8 diapers a day u what you'll find.
Rest when baby rests, and watch that she IS getting enough.
As your nursing relationship develops.

My baby cries, ....alot.
It's not colic, and it's her, or my frustration. this is tough.
We found the latch sweet spot,
But it doesn't matter when nursings not.

Lean babys head back, nipple to nose,
Get plenty of breast tissue and on she goes.
Chin first, then her mouth,
Nursing shouldn't hurt even if at first it's a little rough.

My DD latches fine at first,
But then suddenly there's a burst.
Off she slides, and pulls down her chin
And suddenly her lower lip flips in..

See a Lactation consultant and get some help,
Don't worry you ARE making plenty of milk.
Take a supplment like fenugreek or domperidone
You'll smell like maple syrup, an through this you are not alone.

I'm taking 15 pills a day,
Pumping like crazy and my milk stays away.
Baby's latching, on a very red nipple and breast.
And my 3 month old is putting me to the test.

Don't give up, your almost there.
Your making milk, and baby's loving your care.
All babies cry? Look at her diapers and weight gain,
Just thinking you don't have milk is making me insane.

What sux is I'm not enjoying my time with you.
I'm stressed and pumping and supplementing but no more milks
coming thru.
But I just don't know how to give up, I keep going on, but for what?
and it's torture not enjoying this time, but I won't quit, I just can not.

Don't listen to those who ask, "is she getting enough?"
"She's so small, this must be rough."
"I can't believe your doing 'that' when you have those other two."
"Give a little formula so she'll sleep for you."

I'm worried, your crying and It's week number 8,
Your not satisfied and you're not gaining weight.
A few ounces is really it, you didn't gain a lot.
But I keep going because wet diapers you have got.

I'm still here nursing, offering both sides,
I've arrived here satisfied knowing I've tried.
You get the antibodies when you drink my gold,
And night nurse, skin to skin it's best I've been told.
And in the daytime hours we use an SNS,
your not hungry and more content at my breast.
This is a happy baby, she feels satisfied,
And doesn't have the hunger inside.

Out getting groceries I can offer you a snack,
Or at my breast you'll take a nap.
A happy baby is what I want,
This is a good place from what I first got.

Yes I'm bummed out this isn't what I planned,
But some nursing's better then none, it's liquid gold In Hand.
It's not my fault you were tongue tied and a pallet that's high,
A recessed chin, argh! I have no more tears to cry!

Breastfeeding is hard, it's a constant attachment.
But your not a failure if you can't tackle it.
Successful moms even say it's hard, having an infant constantly keeping you behind bars.

I don't know where 20 minutes came from,
There's only a pattern in this hum drum.
So give your baby what you can,
let them suckle and feed very often.

Most women who make it past the 6 week mark,
Will make it outta the dark.
And Feel a joy like no other.
For that of an infant and her nursing mother.


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My story in Poetry: Breastfeeding is hard

Here I am nursing my baby girl for nap time and my young son plays in the background.

My story in Poetry: Breastfeeding is hard

As a mother of three, I wanted to nurse all my babies. With each one there was a small problem here or there.... And I wasn't able to EB (expressly breast) feed.

With my oldest I was turning his head toward the breast (not aligning ear, shoulder, hip). So he couldn't swallow right...Imagine drinking through a pinched straw. The LC wasn't at the hospital over my weekend delivery and I saw her two weeks later, where I expressed drops... of... milk...

With my second son I was simply freaked out that he was constantly at the breast. I was so concerned he wasn't satisfied...even tho he did sleep after nursing. He wasn't gaining weight "quickly enough," so at two months I started supplementing with a SNS. I also pumped after nursing and took fenugreek (15 pills a day). I also took domperidone for two months, which helped my nighttime supply for sure. We expressly night nursed, which was a satisfying nursing relationship.

Now with baby girl, and a ridiculous amount of reading I was determined to EBF!!! She nursed great in the first few hours. Only lost 7% body weight. This was it, success! But as we left the hospital the LC said she was seriously Tongue Tied. Once home she was gaining 1-1.5 ounces a week. The WHO standard for EB fed babies is 3.5-7 ounces a week. At one week she was clipped. But her lower lip kept turning in, I'd flip it out, she'd flip it in. She has a recessed chin impacting the latch. Then my nipple was lipstick shaped, she also has a high palette and wasn't taking in enough breast or having the nipple hit the roof of the mouth...

Aaaaasrrrrrrrrggggghhhhhh!!!

Can you see that I knew what was wrong and I couldn't do much about it. She wouldn't sleep after nursing, and cried the most from all three babies. She was hungry. So we also supplement with the SNS and night nurse. Of course, I also pumped after nursing and took fenugreek (15 pills a day). When I skipped a feeding or night pumped I consistently had two ounces. She suckles to nap and lotsa snacks. She gets the most breast milk, and we have a happy nursing relationship.


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by Areyousureaboutthatblog author

Make Mistakes. Breathe, reflect and Laugh.Out.Loud

Poetry: a mother yelling

When I was young, my mother would sometimes just yell. We know bad parenting habits are multi-generational. I don't blame her for yelling. Don't get me wrong I consider my childhood a happy one tho. I understand where these things come from. But as an adult I know the constant yelling made me a quick to anger adult. And I Am Breaking The Cycle.... The Yelling Stops With Me!


Yelling at a price

When I was 15 I'd lay in bed
And send my mom curses, in my head
Sometimes I'd wish her dead
Or some other horrible thing

She'd YELL at me for this or that
Why did you drop your HAT?
You're a such a spoiled brat!
Or some other horrible thing

Now I have three kids of my own
And sometimes I get into that yelling zone
And one day will they'll abandon me, Alone
Or some other horrible thing

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Terminal Illness... Questions for the Doctor

When a family or friend has a serious or terminal illness it can be a scary time. I like to research lots of opinions, learn what questions to ask, and gain perspectives. So then I can write down My Own questions for the doctor.

Many doctors won't disclose more then basic information unless you ASK specific questions.

When our beloved aunt was being treated with high doses of Morphine we realized her pain level must be tremendous!! The doctors kept using the term "Advanced Cancer," yet kept telling her/us keep fighting and keep hope alive.

When her husband (who had a limited education) asked questions, he asked about what he understood - time. All he could understand regarding cancer was ..."how long does she have to live?" the doctors would say "I'm not God, we don't know that answer." We only felt this was difficult, frustrated and worried.

We called a meeting with the doctor and he met with the family after his rounds at the hospital.

Know that if you ask detailed questions the doctor will offer you more information. Be open minded and considerate of the doctor. Be prepared to hear the unexpected. And know considering risks and benefits of treatments may be a relief or may make you feel more stressed.

Here's what we asked:

How well did the last treatment work?
Did the cancer respond to treatment?

What is the current treatment plan? What are the goals?
What are the realistic benefits and risks?
-relieve symptoms, shrink the cancer, control the spread? or live longer?

Is the bowel obstruction reversible?
Are there surgery or stent options? Or gastrostomy tube?

With the naso tube is some type of venting a next step?
What are the Risks and benefits?

What do you mean by advanced cancer?

Is it treatable? Is it curable?

Is remission possible?

Is she terminal?

Is it time to consider hospice care?

What are the benefits or intervention and further treatment at this time?

These questions help you gain additional information to help you make informed decisions for you and yours.

Ideas for Children Gifts... Sorted by Age

Over the years my kids have received some fab gifts, and some not so great ones too... Here's my list that I keep in my phone so it's always at my fingertips when shopping for gifts.

I always try to buy better quality toys made from wood versus plastic. And if it is plastic, we check that it's not cheaply made...

When giving a Shower Gift or a Wedding Gift I keep it simple and give something unique. HOw many tea sets are given now a days? Or baby time capsules for mom? Really unique goes a long way. And give it often - so you dont have to rack your brain for a new gift every time an occasion comes up.

As for the books: Giving Books is critical. Kids need to be surrounded by books inorder to become avid readers. Believe me, give enough books and the kids will start to look forward to them. In the early years, giving rhyming books, or early poetry. Its important to help build the basic skills for phonics and word rhymes - a basic foundation skill to learn how to read.

--Handmade gifts are great!!
I have made thos easy to cut and tie fleece blankets and pillows; painted christmas ornaments; cloth covered composition note books with themes the kids would like (and then used felt pieces to highlight some of the designs & write their names), even the youngest kids like these notebooks; "baking kits" printing out easy kid recipies and gifting the ingredients; art projects: same idea, print out the intructions and gift the stuff; give a bird house to paint, bird seed and paint.

* Buy an experience!!!
- tickets to the zoo, or a family pass
- tickets to the museum,
- tickets to the theatre, especially children's plays!!
- tickets for an activity or play land
- a bowling alley certificate
- make a handmade coupon for an outing to your local ice cream shop
- a date with grandma coupon


These experience gifts are unique and always appreciated! I cannot say enough how far an experience gift goes, truly a wonderful idea.

Where to shop? 

Shop at discount stores: Big lots, TJ Maxx, Marshall's and Ross dress for less always have below retail prices, and they get lots of overstock. Start early, October is a good time for gifts because there is still ample stock.

Shop at Michaels or hobby lobby for craft kits (many available under $10). They carey wood pieces for painting, like the painted bird house idea.


A little blurb on Baby & toddler shoes:  Theres some great kids shoes on the market. Don't but those hard sole shoes for kids. I let my kids be barefoot often when the weathers agreeable. Otherwise, flexibility is great for the kids ability to learn to walk without having to manage bulky shoes. 'Ive discovered Robeez and Flexes shoes. Gifting this to a new mom who hasn't discovered these shoes yet is a neat surprise for her and baby.

Another blurb on BABY SHOWER GIFTS::
I ALWAYS give a book, Touch and feel books, single picture animal books with one word on the page. See my handmade "Starter Library" gift blog post for an amazing unique baby shower gift. Moms get PLENTY of cute baby outfits, but babies want to hear moms voice, give the gift of books.

I ALWAYS give diapers, any size except newborn. Diapers, diapers, diapers!!! Any size.

-- Age 12 months and older outfits are a must (trust me moms get enough newborn cloths). After 9 months the moms shouldn't have to go shopping.

-- Baby ear thermometer

-- Baby rattle and small black and white or hanging safety toys for the stroller.

-- Leap frog caterpillar - a nice musical toy for all ages.

-- Early Rolling ball/ baby crawls to follow it.

-- Leap Frog -  Rex Dog sings with ABC and preschool songs. My 5-year old younger son just rediscovered his and uses the "2-minutes of nighttime music" to fall asleep at night.

-- Solid wood blocks, not painted! High quality wood blocks will see years of fun!


Unique ideas for special Christening or Baptism Gift ideas:
-- buy baby's gown
-- crochet or knit baby's booties and headpiece
-- pay for the luncheon
-- buy babies luncheon outfit
-- make baby's gown from the mothers wedding dress
-- have the same flowers from the wedding on the luncheon tables.

For the Godfather:
--Picture frame engraved "My Godfather and Baby's Name"
--a clock or watch on a chain engraved "Godfather for a lifetime"
-- a silver bookmark, engraved "My Godfathers words will guide me"

For the Godmother:
-- a water globe with an angel inside or a special word, or room for a picture. Engraved with "A Godmothers Love."
-- a mirror compact for her purse, engraved with "Godmothers Guidance" or "My Godmothers reflection"
-- a lipstick case with a mirror inside "A Godmothers kiss and Baby's Name"
-- a silver bookmark, engraved "My Godmothers words will guide me"

Long lasting Wedding gift::
My go to gift is a Crystal vase or Tea set. Young Ladies often dont know theyll need a go to vase for flowers received in their lifetime. And a nice tea set is great when guests pop in for coffee or tea, and to feel a little fancy! (Put that in their note too.)

I love giving unique gifts, and Mothers Day is no different. 

My mother, grandmother, stepmom and aunt all receive a corsage on Mothers Day. So they can feel special wearing it all day, even in casual clothes and sitting around the house.

For mothers day:
--Quote in the card: "Moms, proof that not all super heros wear capes."
--"your insistence on 2 hours homework every night = Name of College. Thanks mom"

Gifts by Age for Birthdays, Holidays, Christmas, and any occasion.

In general I try to stick to quality gifts. My criteria is it is made of wood, or and educational toy or the child is really wanting / collecting that item. I'm not a fan of cheap "throw away" toys!

Age 1::
Books, Books, Books
Give an experience, like a trip to the zoo
Leap Frog Rex talking dog
Leap frog caterpillar singing
Rolling ball
Touch n feel books,
Peek a boo book
Kisses book
Little people Noahs ark
Talking like the rain book - children hearing the rhyming of poems is very good for reading skills development
Nursery rhymes encyclopedia
Eric Carle animal rhyme books
Goodnight moon/Gorilla
Square circle hole set
Hammering pegs wood set
1st wood train
1st wood stacking toys / cups

AGE 2::
Books, Books, Books
Give an experience, like a trip to the zoo
Bubbles!!
Talking phone
Fridge magnets: letters or animals
Leap Frog Word Whammer - Refrigerator Magnet Letters, but better!
Pop up tent
Thick crayons and Coloring books
Wooden Puzzles 4-9 pieces
Wooden musical instruments - zoo instruments
Big wooden blocks
Fire engine talking lights sounds (one of the few plastic toys we love thru age 8)
Wooden Train set
Etch a sketch
Richard Scarrys my first word book
My first Spanish word book
Ceiling hanging night light
Cups with lids, preferably BPA free
Small chair
Balls
Pool
Fun plates - reusable, with animal faces. Preferably not movies.
Mother goose numbers on the loose book
Corduroy, the book and stuffed animal
Wall posters animals
Rocking horse/stick horse
Wooden trucks
Wooden letter blocks
Bathtub letters
A "real" small durable binocular


AGE 3 (plus same as age 2) ::
National geographic magazine. Age 2-3
Give an experience, like a trip to the zoo
(And see experience gifts at the top of this post)
Pop up tent
Lego sets
Pretend play clothes (homemade hero capes and masks are fun).
Finger puppets
Dress up
Bubbles
Ring toss - yard
Wooden Birdhouse kit, buy a birdhouses, acrylic paint, sealer, brush and bag of bird food
Large ball
A "real" small durable binocular
A "real" flashlight, with instructions hand made to "remember to turn me off so I work the next time you want to play." Chair, small for kids
Hard Animal figures
Beading/stringing/lacing set
Pretend play mask, doctor kit or Tool kit
Ninja headband / bandanas or pirate hat (both are for girls options too)
Playdoh set - with cookie cutter shapes, but not the too plastic "creative taken out of it" for you kit. Kids should create on their own, not in premise molds.
Ingredients in a jar for homemade salt dough, "just add water" is on the note.
Wooden Puzzle 10-25 pieces
Wooden Building blocks
Wooden Music instruments
Paint set
Finger puppets
Wall posters of gentle animals
Bed time story book series
Piggy bank with sound
Leap frog (double duty as a reader and magnetic letter) Word whammer fridge alphabet pieces
Paint bird house, paint and seeds
Bug kit - book and jar with holes premade in the lid for kids to collect bugs outdoors.
Kitchen play food kit
Character lunch bag
Seed packet and small kids shovel and gloves for planting. Add a pot for apartment dwellers.

AGE 4 (plus same as age 3) ::
(And see experience gifts at the top of this post)
Books! Theme books on what the child is interested in (Daniel Tiger, Elmo, Construction trucks, etc.) 
Lego set
Animal figurines to pretend play
Cooking aprons
Pretend play
Seed packet and small kids shovel and gloves for planting. Add a pot for apartment dwellers.Finger puppets
Dress up clothes and masks
Early Microscope kit
Birdhouse, acrylic paint, sealer, brush and bird food
Echo microphone or other musical instruments
Dr Seuss series
Crafts kit
Lacing/beading supplies
nail polish
Word whammer magnetic letters/word builder (for the fridge)
Character lunch bag
Play doh

AGE 5 (plus same as age 4) :: 
(And see experience gifts at the top of this post)
Books! Theme books on what the child is interested in (Ninjas, airplanes, a Disney movie, Construction trucks, etc.) 
Real Flashlight, binoculars or and explorer set for a real hardware / sports store.
Sight word books
Materials for simple arts and crafts
House play props such as dishes and a table for parties
School play props such as dry-erase board and worksheets
Simple construction toys and science kits
Skate board with helmet
Early science kits for making safe explosions, fizz and bursts
Simple board and card games, puzzles
A cardboard box cut into a shape of a boat, car or house and a set of markers to color.
A bug kit (have a holes in the top and a net).
Legos
Puzzles with 20-50 pieces

AGE 6 and Age 7::
(And see experience gifts at the top of this post)
Books! Theme books on what the child is interested in (a recent movie, their favorite book/collection, Construction trucks, etc.) 
A calendar in their favorite theme ( like cars, horses, trains and airplanes, even about buildings, or traveling around the world).
A book on making paper airplanes
Kids get more responsible at this age. Helping parents with a responsibility chart might be fun. So would a chia pet (remind kids to water as directed).
Books, chapter books are big at this age.
National geographic magazine
Highlights magazine
Zoo - magazine
Materials for simple arts and crafts
House play props such as dishes and a table for parties
School play props such as dry-erase board and worksheets
Simple construction toys and science kits
Skate board with helmet
Early science kits for making safe explosions, fizz and bursts
Simple board and card games, puzzles
Age-appropriate video games
Dolls and doll accessories
Stuffed animals and puppets
Beginning sports equipment such as balls, golf clubs, t-ball sets, and basketball goals/backboards
musical instruments
Bicycle
Play tents
Swing set or outdoor gym set


AGE 8-9:: (see age 7 as well)
(And see experience gifts at the top of this post)
Books! Theme books on what the child is interested in.
Tickets to a musical/play
Kids theatre / tickets to a play or kids concert
Cooking supplies for cupcakes, cookies
Kids cookbook with supplies
Crafts/models from Michael's
Hoodies
Cool Tshirts 
Face for tree (concrete faces)
Bow and arrow set - when taught proper stance and safety first its a great gift
Soccer nets / sports gear / jerseys

AGE 10-14::
Fleece blanket n pillow
T shirt with a favorite character.
Make a t-shirt with their favorite saying
Fleece theme scarf
Most Dangerous Book for Boys/Girls
Lego building sets (yes still)
Their favorite magazine subscription
Mix cd
Demonata book series
Harry potter book series
Goosebumps book series
Animal encyclopedias
How things work series
Arts n crafts kit
Drawing set
Paint Set
Face for tree (concrete design)
Bow and arrow set
Soccer nets / sports gear / jerseys

Gifts ages 14 and up::

A word about Young Adults and Teenagers: Encouraging passion for SOMETHING is very important at this age (at any age). Following our passions makes for a happier life. Hopefully forming life long love of doing things. Along these lines, kids do have their passions. This teenage years are no different, its just sometimes harder to get the information outta the kid! 

The other thing I have noticed is we often treat teenagers as adults. They are still kids! They still like candy, lollipops, t-shirts, hoodies, and toys! Yes toys! Don't take these last childhood moments and years away from them.

Consider what the child is interested in? Do they love music? Maybe a cool music store gift certificate or itunes gift card?

Do they collect something? Coins, an action figure, model trains / toys? If you don't know which pieces they own already, give a note acknowledging their love of collecting. Include a coupon for a trip with you to go and buy what THEY want to add to the collection. 

I've personally gone online at amazon checking out popular gifts. Remote control helicopters and flying dinosaurs ROCK!

Perhaps a years magazine subscription to what they love - yes even gaming. There really is a magazine for everything available nowadays. Google "magazine" and the key words of interest.

Personal Gifts I have given to older kids:

- A handmade sign, felt covered, says: SKI as room decor for my brother who was a ski fanatic!

- painted a wall mural for a Chicago Bears Fan

- A Mommy-Date Coupon: spent a day with my older son one-on-one mommy date after the youngest baby girl was born. It was 3 hours at a burger lunch and a candy shop. Then we went to the park... Yeah, that easy

- I collect coins all year long for my brothers' coin collection. I just look thru pennies for anything pre-1940 and post 2010 pennies (cause he wanted those). I then felt covered a binder in $ symbols. Inside the binder were coin holder pages. 
Low cost High Value gift!

- I've made felt pillow covers with the material in the theme of the teenager. Sports teams, snowflakes, Favorite colors, etc.

- I found loads of Pokemon cards at the thrift store for my son.

Happy shopping

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